Some people will skip over your accomplishments, just to point out your flaws

I’ve heard it before, “Can’t you just be happy at the weight you are at” or “You’ve lost enough weight, your starting to look sick” or “Your losing your curves, your starting to look like a little boy.” I try to brush it off or make a joke out of it, but comments, especially from loved ones, can make you wince or embarrassed, or just downright hurt your soul.
Whether you’re trying to eat healthier, exercise, or cut down on an unhealthy habit, the company you keep plays a big role in helping you achieve your goals. Unfortunately, your loved ones can sometimes, intentionally or unintentionally, become obstacles to your goal.
Everyone offers plenty of guidance on what you should and shouldn’t do, there is no shortage of parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and websites telling you the right way to eat, drink, sleep, and breath. However not everyone gives good advice and not everyone not everyone has good intentions.
The people you hold close to your heart should build you up, not try to make you feel worse.
Some are oblivious. They genuinely don’t know that what they are doing is hurtful or sabotaging. They say things like “Come on, today can be your cheat day.” “You’re doing great, you can take a few days off”
Some are aware, saying things like “I can’t really tell that you have lost weight,” “I think you looked better heavier,” “You’ll probably gain it all back just like you did the last time you were on a diet.”
So, what should you do when those closest to you are hindering rather than helping your efforts?
Sometimes, it’s not about changing them, it’s about changing how you respond to them.
Be patient with everyone and yourself. Change is hard. It’s not going to happen for you overnight, don’t expect them to change instantly. Sometimes your family and friends need time to adjust. Often, people don't see their behavior as hindering. Gently pointing it out can go a long way.
Reiterate your commitment. Usually the people in your life have been with you through thick and thin, If you are anything like me they’ve seen you try every diet under the sun (like the time I went vegan – my husband always reminds me “worst vegan ever”). Remind everyone that you are human, you will go through ups and downs, but you are trying to change for the better and achieve a healthier lifestyle.
Accept responsibility. For long-term success, you have to commit to yourself and your goals, no matter what others are doing. Ultimately, you're in charge of your own actions, including how you respond to others. You are on this journey by yourself, for yourself.
Pay attention to who you spend your time with and how they make you feel. People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

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